Well, I haven't blogged in awhile....it's been well over a year. I guess you could say I've been a busy girl. :) Anyway, I'm going to try my hardest to start blogging again. Since I now have a desk job I think I may actually be able to find the time. Part of what inspired me to start again was reading the letter below. It was written by Bethenny Frankel of Bravo fame. I happen to love her, but I know there are lots of people who wouldn't exactly classify themselves as fans. These are the same people who resent reality TV stars for being famous. You'll hear a lot of - "But what is he/she famous FOR?" coming from them frequently. Since reality TV is pretty much all I watch, I don't have this problem.
Anyway, I find Bethenny inspiring for a lot of reasons, but one in particular. Every time I see her or watch her show, I feel inexplicably hopeful. She did not have a follow a traditional path in her life, and she has admitted to experiencing some pretty low lows, particularly in her 20s and early to mid 30s. She had a hard time finding her career path, finding the right guy and stressed about when she would be able to start a family. I can tell you that I have definitely experienced all of those feelings and sometimes the stress of it can be overwhelming. However, when I see the life that Bethenny has made for herself and, more importantly, how quickly and drastically her life has changed, it gives me hope.
My birthday is coming up and every time it creeps up on me I can't help but reflect on the year I've had. This year has definitely had it's ups and downs - I fell madly in love, experienced a wonderful but all too short relationship, had my heart broken, watched friends get engaged, married and have babies, traveled, strengthened some relationships, weakened others, switched jobs, cried a lot, laughed a lot more, drank a huge amount of wine and improved upon an already pretty impressively preppy wardrobe. I guess what I'm getting at is that the letter below reminded me that, in spite of all the ups and downs I go through, it's important to look at the big picture, remain hopeful about your future, relax and enjoy every minute of the life you have. As Bethenny says, you only get one. Hope it inspires you too.
Dear Younger Self,
Don't worry so much. Time will pass you by and what you'll remember are things like the smells of summer by the beach, a home-cooked meal, and the first time your child walks or says "mama." You'll forget that boy who isn't paying attention to you and you'll soon learn that being the prettiest girl in the room isn't important, but being the most fun, outgoing, bubbly, and interesting is.
When times get tough, make laughing your priority. For years to come, it's the funny moments that you, your friends, and your family will talk about.
Also, younger self:
• Never pay retail. The item will be on sale somewhere and getting a deal will make you feel better.
• Learn to drive stick when you first get your license or you may never learn.
• Tip everyone. It means much more to them than it does to you.
• Wear plenty of sunscreen, please. And do not be a sun worshipper.
• Have a family dog. Get one that is on the smaller side. They live longer.
• Always stop at lemonade stands.
• Wait for the good guy. Don't settle, but also know that there's no such thing as the perfect man. Marry someone who loves you no matter what you look like or say or do and who knows the real you.
• Read books. Read the newspaper. It instills confidence to be able to have a conversation at the dinner table.
• If you have a good idea, go for it. Don't assume it has already been done. Never assume anyone is smarter than you because they're not.
• Most importantly: Enjoy your life. Remember, you only get one.